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Who Knows you have Dyscalclia
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| Sim75 |
Posted on December 17 2009 10:39 AM
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Except for my family and a few coworkers I still feel the stigma of having this that I grew up with in the 70's in school and don't tell people,so its intresting a lot of times when I hear people talk about people with learning Disabilities and I am sitting there.
When I was first dating my wife she said something I could not understand and I said what ? in which case she said what do you have a Learning disablity and I said YES which ended that joke,but started another conversation |
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| Kestrel6 |
Posted on December 17 2009 01:54 PM
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Only two friends; no one at work and no one in the family.
Had been debating telling my parents, since they always despaired of my bad math skills, but if I do they might get into a "we should have known" funk (mom especially) even though nobody ever heard of dyscalc in the 70's, they'll still think, I should have seen, I should have guessed, etc. Better they think I'm bad at math than they guilt themselves needlessly.
Not telling anyone at work because layoffs are always hanging over us like a Damoclean sword and they'll take any excuse (even though nosignificant maths are involved in my jo .
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| RottieWoman |
Posted on December 17 2009 02:02 PM
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Everybody, I don't care anymore |
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| CheshireKat |
Posted on December 17 2009 02:31 PM
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Everyone in my family and all of my friends. I will share with anybody, I'm not ashamed of it and I love to spread the word about what dyscalculia is and that it actually exists. I feel like the more people I tell about it, the better chance there is that somebody who doesn't know they have it will be able to get help.
"The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings." - Eric Hoffer |
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| twistedxkiss |
Posted on December 17 2009 02:56 PM
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Everybody who will listen. Now that I am starting an LD club at school likely the whole town will know by the time I graduate. If I have my way, anyway.
It happens often enough that I do something silly in front of someone that I'd rather just explain myself rather than have them think I am an idiot. Plus I've had a handful of people go and get screened after hearing about me. |
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| scrapheapchallenge |
Posted on December 17 2009 03:02 PM
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CheshireKat wrote:
Everyone in my family and all of my friends. I will share with anybody, I'm not ashamed of it and I love to spread the word about what dyscalculia is and that it actually exists. I feel like the more people I tell about it, the better chance there is that somebody who doesn't know they have it will be able to get help.
my feelings exactly! I'm so happy to know I'm not jus a lazy good for nothing that I'm letting EVERYONE know! lol 
I have determined that my sole purpose in life is to serve as a bad example |
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| EarlyWarning |
Posted on December 17 2009 03:10 PM
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I tell everyone i know and everyone i meet..
It's nice to have an actual reason for why i experience time and screw up math the way i do... instead of just being weird. Which i don't really mind at all, it just seems people are more accepting and accommodating if it has a name.. so your labeled and can fit into their world.
You May not Live, But you will Die. |
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| Kyla Dilla |
Posted on December 17 2009 03:51 PM
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Before I meet my educational psychologist and the special ed teachers, only my mum, dad, brothers and 2 friends knew about it.
After meeting them. I told everyone. xD Its find it rather funny when I do a mistake and people make it to a joke, and suddenly i come out with a serious tone that I have Dyscalculia
example
Friend : Haha owh my you counted it wrongly! It should be RM7.60 (Rm is the malaysian currency)
Me: Owh I do that often. I'm really bad at math. Thanks for catching my mistake though.
Friend : You should start doing maths bla bla bla (and a million and one reasons why i should improve my maths and how to improve them)
Me: I have dyscalculia. Its a mathematical learning disability. *in a serious tone"
Friend : *shocked face*
Btw. when i was typing this, my Firefox spell check indicated that Dyscalculia was spelt wrongly. I have been aware of this for a long time but I guess we should start "pushing" for the word Dyscalculia to be accepted by spell checkers.
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| RottieWoman |
Posted on December 17 2009 06:11 PM
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Good example, KD
I think that my telling folks could maybe help someone who I'll never meet, or know anything about being "helped". I tell because the only way for people w/o LD and/or math LD to start to be aware and therefore gain some knowledge and maybe understanding, IS to tell them. I tell people because it's part of who I am and nothing to be ashamed of. I tell because am proud of how it has shaped me as a person and as person with a disability - but NOT a "disabled person". |
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| justfoundout |
Posted on December 17 2009 07:03 PM
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12/17/09
Hi everybody. How'd you get so much writing done just while I was sleeping and driving to my college campus? Yes, I tell everybody who will listen,... and a few who won't listen!
Last night, I watched the movie I'd rented, Music Within. How can I make that movie 'required viewing' for forum members? No way to do this? That's okay. But I do highly recommend it. What RottieWoman was just now saying (about not being ashamed) 'brought home' the same point that was made in that movie. Did y'all know that, before the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act), the US had something referred to as the 'Ugly Law'? If someone looked so bad it would upset other people dining at a restaurant, the 'ugly person' could be arrested if they wouldn't leave when asked! You've just GOT to see this movie. (2007 movie)
By telling others that we have an LD, it helps improve conditions for us and for everyone else with a learning disability, or even with other disabilities. - jus'
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| tr3slunas |
Posted on December 17 2009 08:56 PM
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Everybody!!  the more awareness the better!
Count me in! |
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| RottieWoman |
Posted on December 17 2009 10:26 PM
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'jus, I wanna see that movie... |
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| user82 |
Posted on December 18 2009 05:21 AM
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Well I've never been tested or diagnosed so I don't know if I have a LD or dyscalculia. I do, however, tell people/joke that I'm very bad at math. Sometimes I wish I wasn't so bad at it, but I'm not ashamed of it. I'd be ok with telling anyone if they're willing to listen. |
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| Arwen Evenstar |
Posted on December 18 2009 06:48 AM
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I tell pretty much everyone, I'm not ashamed that it's very likely that I'm a dyscalculic. It's part of who I am and I'm not going to hide it. |
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| Mohinga |
Posted on December 18 2009 02:01 PM
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Everybody knows, family, friends, coworkers, teachers.
My aim is to spread the word so people like myself will get the support and understanding that we need.
I don't mind answering questions at all, in fact it's a great relief to me that my difficulties have a "name" and don't just exist in my (vivid) imagination and the more people I can enlighten, the better :-)
I'm a violin so stop trying to make me sound like a piano!!
Dyscalculia doesn't bother me as much as all the nasty accessories that came with it |
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| RottieWoman |
Posted on December 19 2009 02:01 PM
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Mohinga, since you were talking about the questions - I enjoy answering sincere questions someone may have about LD and/or math LD, it's part of why I don't mind discussing it with anyone- |
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| Mohinga |
Posted on December 19 2009 06:55 PM
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RottieWoman wrote:
Mohinga, since you were talking about the questions - I enjoy answering sincere questions someone may have about LD and/or math LD, it's part of why I don't mind discussing it with anyone-
The same goes for me..
Answering people's questions comes with a bonus - everybody knows I can't help messing things up so they accept my being "different".
I'm a violin so stop trying to make me sound like a piano!!
Dyscalculia doesn't bother me as much as all the nasty accessories that came with it |
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| saruna |
Posted on December 20 2009 12:09 AM
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When I was first diagnosed, I only told people who needed to know. (My husband, immediate family, college staff and faculty.) This all changed when I was forcibly "outed" in front of 30+ beginning algebra students by my college professor. I was outraged and embarrassed by what happened but I soon realized that I had no reason to be ashamed of my dyscalculia.
I hated the professor at the time, but now I look back on it and in a way, I'm glad because it helped me to get over my fears and concerns. Before this happened, my fellow students used to ask me all the time why I wasn't taking math exams. (I was taking them, but at the testing center so it looked like I was skipping tests and missing a lot of class.)
I used to dance around the questions awkwardly and now I have enough confidence to either tell them about it or politely say that it's none of their business! I'm starting a new college soon and I've decided that I'll share my name and contact information with my note taker. It's just easier than running around trying to hide it all the time.
I was called in for jury duty and had to tell them about my MLD and that was just more practice for me. It gets less awkward every time I do it.
Now all of my friends and family know. |
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| reverend blamo |
Posted on December 21 2009 06:08 PM
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I used to hide it, thinking it was a negative trait. Now I tell anyone who will listen. I had to explain it to my mom because she know very little about it (the school didn't explain or didn't know much about it)
My co-workers know, My boss asked me if I was able to do my job with this, I told him " I have been for the last year haven't I?"
"I used to be disgusted, now I try to be amused..."
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| CheshireKat |
Posted on December 21 2009 08:01 PM
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Rev - After I told my boss at my last job about my dyscalculia, she was like, "Doesn't that make most of your job hard to do?" and I said, "Well, yes, it does." She was like, "You could've fooled me, I had no idea you were having difficulty on the register. You work just as fast as everyone else and the drawer never comes up short. Just keep doing what you're doing I guess." It seems like if we never told these people, they might have never known at all! Just testament to the ability of dyscalculics to learn to work around all the numbers we live with on a daily basis.
"The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings." - Eric Hoffer |
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