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| Laura |
Posted on December 13 2010 12:47 AM
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PS....
Been looking for a new job and have been turned down for 3 so I am really unsure and dont wanna go abck to that pardon the work "hell hole"
Really needing someone to say it's gonna be ok... but I don't think that's gonna happen
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| justfoundout |
Posted on December 13 2010 04:18 PM
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12/13/10
Dear Laura,
Even though I haven't been through 'exactly' what you are going through, I've been through something similar. I'd worked for ten years at a place. Now you know that I couldn't have worked there for ten years without knowing my job, right? But the local management started treating me, over all, the same inconsiderate way that you are being treated. Only last night, I was talking on the phone with one of my ex-co-workers from that place, and he mentioned how mean and unfair my boss had been to me, in the way that they got rid of me. It always makes us feel a little better when there's someone else who sees what's happening and 'speaks up'. That goes a long way toward salvaging our self-esteem, hearing someone else 'set the record straight',... that we worked hard and did the best that we could, but were 'harrassed'.
With the job situation being what it is, worldwide, I'm afraid that you may have to return to that job on the 'day indicated',... and I'm so sorry for how unpleasant this may be for you. But it does sound like you need to keep up the 'job searches', because there may come the day when it's not 'up to you' whether to go back or not. You may be 'out the door' whether you like it or not. In my case, I was fired. I appealed my case to an arbitrator, and I was found to have been 'fired without due cause'. So, at least that part of my ordeal ended well. But the memory of the 'hurt' is still with me. At least it makes me a more sympathetic person to other people's suffering.
In what other fields of work are there jobs there, these days? I'm going to paste the link to an article on 'finding work'. It may not apply to your present situation, but then again, there may be something in it that will give you a new idea. Best wishes on your job search, and on suffering as little damage as possible while you stay at your present job. - jus'
Five Keys to Finding a Jobhttp://www.watcht...cle_02.htm
(This article contains:)
Sample Résumé for Those Without Work Experience
Questions You May Be Asked During an Interview
What About Online Employment Agencies?
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| RottieWoman |
Posted on December 14 2010 03:46 AM
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Laura, am sorry to read about your job situation. It can get very disheartening to be turned down consistently. For me, it has sometimes become almost like a guessing game - guess what they want me to put down on a resume, or want me to say, so I can "win".
I've been fired from jobs too. That did affect me and it was difficult but after the various times I did eventually get another job. One of my strengths is my persistence, part of which stems from the LD itself. I really am thinking of you and wish you the best, Laura <hugs>
'jus, will check out those references you gave, looks interesting-
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| Laura |
Posted on December 16 2010 01:56 AM
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Hey Just,
Thank you for commenting.... I think most works are simliar huh? Thats awful though what happened to you.
Hey Rottie,
Thank you for commenting... I am just frustrated as the same jobs are coming up in the papers but unfortunately I am not getting them .
OK guys, here it goes
I broke down in tears tonight......... I hate crying. 3 solid hours of sheer crying. Had an argument with my Sister and my Dad and my friend is going through a domestic violence case so she is upset too and also my friend who has given birth to a Son her Husband has depression and hasn't been doing too good so I have had to intervene... Haha!!! I hear you say.... ME intervene Hubby was just needing reasurrance... This has all happened and its only the wee hours of Thursday Morning 1:48am
For the past few weeks I have been crying constantly and have been ignoring it. I wanted it to go away. I am really not doing great at all. I wanted to self harm tonight. But I refrained myself from doing so but I still want to. I wanted to take an extra tablet at bedtime too. My med I take at 8am and 10pm and I wanted and again still do take another extra tablet on top of the 1 I have took.
I am dreading still going back to work and all I want to do is get away from it all. I want out. I dont know how much more I can take.
Today well actually Wednesday I went to another city in Scotland to visit my friend who has given birth to a Son. My friend (another friend) came with me. We had a great day!!! I have been talking to her since we arrived home and she said I was overly cheery and that is why she thought something was up with me. She didn't know what though.... Everyone can see it bar me
So not doing good at all... everythign I do is wrong, feeling a bit weird and unsure at the moment.
What do I do?
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| justfoundout |
Posted on December 16 2010 03:20 AM
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12/15/10
Hey back to you, Laura! We sure yell a lot, making sure that our voices carry across that big pond between us. I can totally see you giving comfort to another person feeling 'down'. But,... I thought it was the mommy, not the daddy, who was supposed to be 'blue' after a birth? I'm sure that a man who takes his responsibility seriously can be overwhelmed at the prospect of raising a child with the world going through this economy. I hope that it isn't his health that's causing it, as with good health, we can 'think' ourselves out of a lot of predicaments.
I've sent you a PM, dear. - jus' |
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| Laura |
Posted on December 19 2010 01:34 AM
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Hey guys,
Nightmare still....
Having sever panic attacks due to go back to work on Monday. Have been crying non stopped too.
Nothing I do works. I wanted to stay off work and get a sickline or somethign from my GP but my Mum wouldn't let me. She said I ahve to go in and see whar happens.
I am sooooo worried though.
What if I cave when I get to work and break down into tears.... I was crying for 3 hours solid on Thursday night.
I just want to give up
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| Nissa |
Posted on December 20 2010 03:42 AM
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Hi Laura,
I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time, but please don't give up. |
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| Laura |
Posted on December 23 2010 08:14 PM
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Thanks Nissa!!!
Ok... So I went back to work on Monday. I had a meeting with my Area Manager in the afternoon. We spoke about the meeting I had on Monday 6th December where they took notes regarding my Risk Assessment. Anways... She wanted to talk about my Health. I have always denied having Bipolar or any form of "illness" and after about 1 hour of persistent questions I caved in and told them I have Bipolar. Is it a weight lifted off me- NO!!! Did I do the right thing- NO IDEA!!!
Have took panic attacks since Monday and they have been consistant. What do I do?
I was at the GP today. I told her everything. She has said that she doesn't think that the tablet is not helping my mood and that I have to see Psych about this. I see Psych on 29th Dec. She said I have to tell Psych about the panic attacks and my thoughts and feelings. She offered me a sick a line which I have declined as I really can't.... My Mum and Dad have told me NOT to take time off as I am fine and thats proving a point to work. So she has given me more of Depakote as I am seeing Psych on Wed.
I explained the panic attacks and the crying and the lack of sleep are all making my life so much harder.
My work are being complete "arse's" and now have changed my rota again. I am sick of them. Defo need out now!!
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| justfoundout |
Posted on December 23 2010 09:16 PM
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12/23/10
Sorry, Laura. Has your doctor ever offered to talk to your Mom and Dad. If you didn't live with them, I wouldn't be suggesting this, but being as you live under their roof, it's normal and expected that you would try to please them. However, it doesn't sound to me like they are really 'in the loop' as to how bad you are feeling and what the consequences could be if your health (mental and physical) isn't given priority 'now'. - jus' |
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| Laura |
Posted on December 23 2010 11:49 PM
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Hey Just,
I would not let her talk to my folks lol... too much privacy lost if I let her do it. I am an adult so my parents have no authority to "interfer" in a sense.
My folks understand what is going on... we just cant afford me to go off sick since they still don't have a job so I am the only income coming in along with my sister's part-time wage. My parents both know about my panic attacks.
I think they have tried so hard to understand but dont fully understand and I spoke to my Mum last night and she said she has not re-searched much as she doesn't want to scare monger herself.
I was seeing a guy and he dumped me it wasn't a long relationship but it still hurts.
I have a friend who gave birth and there has been a child abuse case regarding this. She spoke to me so I was witness. I told her I cant keep this info secret and she said "I know" so my friend another one called our NHS24 which is our health service out of services number and we have been bogged down by Social Work and the Police. Now this friend has emailed me and disowned me as she said nothing was wrong. She
was worried about her husband who has possible bipoalr too as she made allegations against him regarding their Son who is 5 weeks old.
I am pretty pissed off with her but know I defo did the right thing.
Eevrythign is just on top of me at the mo. No matter what I try and do I am still "wired" as I am thinking all the time.
I think my med will be changed and hopefully I can get something to help me sleep and with my anxiety and panic attacks as its all getting OTT at the moment
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| CheshireKat |
Posted on December 24 2010 12:53 AM
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Laura, I'm sorry to hear about how hard things have been for you lately. Panic attacks along with bipolar are not uncommon - about 20% of people who have bipolar disorder also have what is known as panic disorder, meaning they have repeated panic attacks. I also have panic disorder, but it has gotten a lot better with therapy. I know how it feels to always be worried about when that next panic attack is going to strike, though. It's an awful feeling, so I do empathize strongly with you right now.
I wish I had some kind of sage advice or wisdom for you, but all I can say is to hang in there. You did the right thing with your friend regarding the social services/child abuse case, you couldn't have been asked to do anything else except tell the truth. Don't feel bad about the truth, and don't let that incident continue to stress you out. It's over, you did the right thing, just let it go.
If your mom won't do the research on bipolar disorder or panic disorder, then there's nothing you can really do to make her, just keep encouraging her to become educated about it. It took my mom months before she would pick up the books I suggested to her, but she eventually did. It was really hard for her, to acknowledge and fully accept that I have a life-long mental illness that is not going to just "go away." She is my mom and she wants me to be perfect and to achieve all the great things in my life that I want, and for her to accept that I'm not perfect and I might not have all of the things I want... I understand, it's hard for her, it took her a while to get to that point. Your mom will get there eventually, just give it time.
Always feel free to PM me if you want to talk specifically about something, you know that. Big hugs.
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| justfoundout |
Posted on December 24 2010 01:40 AM
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12/23/10
Yes, Laura, you did the right thing, telling the authorities about the child abuse case. The mother of the child isn't thinking straight right now. I once made a similar report, upsetting one of my best friends. We don't report things to be the hero, but because to do nothing would be wrong.
Does your town have online listings of jobs? Have you made a resume? Is there some kind of 'home based work' that you could help your mother and father learn to do that would provide some income? I don't need to know, of course. These are rhetorical questions. I hope that you'll get some sleep tonight. - jus'
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| Laura |
Posted on December 24 2010 02:18 PM
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Hey Kat,
I thought I was going mad as it just kept happening. The oddest one was I was in the office and no one was about and I took one... why?? So random!!
I know the problem with my friend is that I know I did the right thing... I work in care I deal with abuse at times and I know what it's like to be "blinded" by the thought she is my friend. But needs must huh!!! Think I am just upset that its all landed on me when in fact it was our mutual friend who actually called the authorities as I was panicing and she said she would do it. But hey ho!!
Ye guess my Mum will eventually start reading stuff. I said I just dont want to push myself too much as I know I will have a relapse if I do. My Mum said I wont as I know what to look out for etc. I said but that means nothing as I might not be able to "catch it" and will maybe need time off work. But she still says I wont. I think it is the whole acceptance thing huh!!! As much as she thinks she is ok with it. I have books but am a bit scared to give them to her as she will read me completely. I still want some of it to be hidden from her.
Thanks Kat... will do 
Hey Just,
I know I dd the right thing... it's just hard to get your head around. I am certainly no hero and I think that my friend needs to understand that I did it as I could NEVER forgive myself if anythign happended to her son, her husband or infact to her herself. She will in time I guess but it still hurts.
Ye I have a CV- resme and I have a few jobs lined up well hopefully.
I am worrying about disclosing my diagnosis... GP said I do not need to but then its a catch 22 situation to be in. Kat I may PM you about this ok!!!
My folks have applied for even low paid jobs just nothing as there is no jobs out there at the moment. We do have some income coming in ie a benefit made to those who have been made redundant but that will soon be finished. Its not much money either. My worry is that the Government will be cutting benefits etc in the new year so what will we do. I am worried about that. Think I am the only one in the house hold who is worried. I am the worrier of the pack unfortunately.
Well guys.... I just wanna wish you both a Very Merry Christmas and I hope you both have a great day!!!! I will be awaiting my presents from Santa lol I am just looking forward to the food heehee!!! xxxx
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| Laura |
Posted on December 29 2010 01:45 PM
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Back from seeing Psych...
Have been referred to see a CPN so now on their waiting list. I have been told my panic attacks are actually anxiety attacks. He upped my dosage of med too. Said it should help with my anxiety.
Anxiety has kicked in for work. Due to leave house in abotu 30 mins. Not feeling the greatest
Work has a big part in this feeling
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| justfoundout |
Posted on December 29 2010 04:02 PM
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12/29/10
Dear Laura,
Sites with online job listings:
http://www.glassd...49_IP3.htm
http://www.paysca...dee/Salary
http://www.1job.c...dee%20City
http://www.jobswo...tland.html
http://www.redgol...-in-dundee
http://www.dundee...
http://www.jobs1....tland.html
http://www.online...iters.html
CPN? CPN, Community Psychiatric Nurse (UK)? What for?
Okay, I just couldn't rest until I'd done that, even if you've tried all of them. - jus' |
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Posted on December 29 2010 11:47 PM
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Hey Just thanks... will check the websites out hopefully you have given me more jobs than what I have found.
Ye Community Psychiatric Nurse... to go over symptoms and to make sure I understand my illness... no idea why though but Psych says I need it
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| justfoundout |
Posted on December 30 2010 12:50 AM
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Okay, Laura. Let us know how it goes. Now, you know how to use the 'word search' at the top of those sites, don't you? Honestly, Laura, if you find something that's close to your house, your parents might get up the enthusiasm to go interview for it themselves. What if you were to get married and move out? You would have your own expenses to take care of. It would be good for your parents to keep active at whaever their health allows. Older people start to loose mental acuity when they aren't in school and aren't working either. I'm just saying... - jus' |
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| Laura |
Posted on December 30 2010 11:09 PM
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Hey Just,
Your completely right. Fingers crossed
Not been feeling well today as my dosage has been upped rather ill  Thinking it is the medication but it could be a bug... great way to end 2010 huh!!
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Posted on December 31 2010 03:02 AM
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Dear Laura,
These are more hiring agencies, but different from those above.
http://www.keyper...ncy.co.uk/
http://www.adecco...
http://www.search...efault.asp
http://www.hays.c...cothays123
http://www.brooks...
http://www.deap.c...
http://www.enrecr...ent.co.uk/
Newport
http://www.totalj...
Newport
http://www.newpor...2god1jhopg
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| Laura |
Posted on January 07 2011 02:46 AM
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Ok my work are again reeling me up
I have now got an action plan due to my sickness levels in this financial year. This means I am not allowed off for 2 months and then it gradually goes higher up.
Then there are my 2 risk assessmnets for my bp!!! Still waiting on it... they cant seem to figure out what to do with me.
My managers all think I am paranoid and unstable according to my area manager. Eevryone I talk to in work says they are trying to push me out
I am gonna go to Citizen's Advice on Monday.
I am manic at the mo... I am maybe a bit too manic than what I would like. I have 7 guys I am speaking to and possibly meeting up with 4 of them alll whom live in England.
Arggggggggggggggggg!!!!!!!! stop all the buzzing going on
I feel like I am going mad.... but the funny thing is I am coping/managing.
Sleep PHEW whats that.... yesterday I was up until 5am and now its nearly 3am and I am WIDE AWAKE!!!
Just dont need to sleep
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