Posted by justfoundout on October 22 2010 02:40 AM
That was the last thing that I wanted to hear from you. I'm so sorry for your pain. But, no, dear Laura, that fellow was, by far, not your 'last hope'. There are lots of possible reasons for his type of a 'break up'. The one that first occurs to me is that 'you' are real
, but 'he' isn't. Some people just like to invent Avatars and live vicarious lives,... all day long. You are genuine, and at an age and time in your life when you are capable of sustaining a caring adult friendship, possibly leading to marriage. He probably just sensed that you were 'out of his league', and rather than be exposed as a fraud, he took the initiative of ending the friendship. That part about "I think we should be friends",... no, that's just double-talk for breaking up.
Usually when I give you a link to an article that I'd like for you to read, I put only the barest of a description of what is contained in that article. But this time, I'll break with my usual 'modus operandi', because I think that it is so appropo to what's happened to you. Please cheer up. Eat some chocolate? - jus'
One problem that arises, though, is that some individuals create a Web-site persona that reflects who they want to be rather than who they are. “There’s a kid in one of my classes who says he’s 21 and lives in Las Vegas,” states a 15-year-old boy. Both youths live about a thousand miles from that U.S. city.
Such deception is quite common. “You can do anything on the Net,” confides an 18-year-old Australian girl. “You can become a whole different person because no one really knows you. You feel confident. You can make up things so that you seem to be more interesting. You can put pictures of yourself wearing things or doing things that you would never wear or do in real life. You can write things you would never say in person. You feel as if you can get away with anything because you’re hidden. No one knows who you really are.”